Complicated Schedules

13 Jul


I am one of those terrible people with an extremely complicated schedule.

I say this before I try to make plans to preempt the inevitable, “Oh my gosh you’re so busy!”  response to my attempts at coordination.

Because, yes, I am busy.  But more than that, I just have an odd schedule.

I have a great schedule if you’re a stay-at-home parent.  I have a great schedule if you want to go out of town with me on a pre-arranged weekend next year.

But I do not have a good schedule if you work 9-5 and you want to hang out with me any time soon.

The next time I am seeing people is in October.

(This is a bit of a joke.

But only a bit.)

My friends are all very supportive of me and this, though, what else could they be?  It’s supportive or nothing.

I learn to take time, slivers where I can.  An ice cream cone once every two weeks may be all I can give my people right now and it’s not enough, it’s never enough.  But it’s something.

It’s about the effort.

My friend and I talked about long distance relationships recently.  She said the biggest difference between a long distance relationship and everyday life is that everyday life relies more on small, daily sacrifices.  Long distance is like, “Oh hey I’m here for a weekend, let’s block everything out of both of our schedules and do nothing but be together and fall in love the whole time,” and everyday life is, “Can I catch you for a half hour next Thursday at 11:00PM and let’s be humans?”

Real life is hard.

There’s something in the sacrifice, though.

Something in the coordination and patience and the driving to see a person on a Thursday at 11:00PM for a half hour.

There’s something in that.

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2 Responses to “Complicated Schedules”

  1. Christine July 13, 2015 at 4:15 am #

    This is beautifully said. Any kind of relationship takes sacrifice and I don’t think people realize that. Everybody pictures marriages, boyfriends, etc. as being the only kind that need sacrifice.

  2. Bailey Brewer July 13, 2015 at 8:26 am #

    As someone who loves both her early-to-bed schedule and bordering on unhealthy cross stitch habit, I try to remind myself that sometimes it’s OK to go grab a bite with someone instead of rushing home to just be home.

    The busy times can be tough; sometimes it’s thrilling, other days you feel like crying. Hang in there. And I’ll take a half hour if that’s all you have to spare. 🙂 (Or Hilary and I will hang out and send you the meeting minutes).

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